Focus on the positives as well as the negatives?
with Christina Ricci
“Choosing what to attend to… is fundamental to good work with couples. Therapists are often trained to notice deficiencies…” Equally important—or maybe more so—is for therapists to learn to “see what is going right as readily as to see what is causing problems.”
When: (Thu Sep 4) 3:30-4:30am WAT
Expect to facilitate at least one specific growth area in every session?
with Chuck Moench
Each session should give you some relief from negative feelings, a new insight about why you have been doing what you do or feeling what you feel, an upgraded skill, or a win-win solution to a troubling concern.
“Couples need to feel that… they are fairly consistently making progress toward resolving the issues between them.”
When: (Fri Sep 5) 3:30-4:30am WAT
Teach skills, and build the new skills into habits by practicing them within the session?
with Graham Dixon
The job of a therapist is to cause “understanding to translate into change in how a person acts in the world… not only to facilitate new understandings… but to point the way to new behaviors that follow from these insights.”
When: (Mon Sep 08) 3:30-4:30am WAT
Have a clear map of treatment—both of the treatment goals and of how to guide a couple to these destinations
with Noomi Mara
“The most important job of all is to keep the session on course.” That is, rather than get “swept along by the powerful force of the couple’s emotions,” effective therapists keep a tight rein, “taking charge of a session.” An effective therapist also “keeps the discussion moving forward in a useful direction,” which enables clients to feel safe and the sessions to feel productive
When: (Tuesday Sep 09) 3:30-4:30am WAT